How Can Parents Raise Children To Become Responsible Citizens?
Academic success is important, but what can well-educated students accomplish if they do not have a strong character, good values, and laudable aspirations? While most parents and teachers know how to instruct a child to read or do long division, fewer people know how to best help their children become responsible citizens and positive contributors to society. While the lessons are not as straightforward, and while they may not happen in the classroom, all parents can help their child develop real-life skills and values that will make them strong, helpful and effective citizens.
Parents may focus on the following values when building their childrenâ€™s character:
Empathy, compassion and understanding
Respect of others and self-respect
Standing up for beliefs
Self-discipline and hard work
Thoughtfulness and self-reflection
These are very big concepts and ideas â€“ and ones that are hard to sit down and teach or deliver a lecture about. Fortunately, there are a number of easy ways that parents can promote these values during everyday life with their kids.
Encourage your child to reflect on his or her actions. The best way to learn from mistakes, grow, and mature, is to learn to analyze and process actions and events. After something significant has happened in your childâ€™s life, ask them to talk about it. Ask questions like, â€œHow did that make you feel?â€ â€œWhat would you like to do differently next time?â€ and â€œHow do you think the other person felt?â€
Expose your child to as many new experiences and ideas as possible. Serve food in a homeless shelter. Go to the public library. Take a road trip. Sign up to learn about coding. The more your child experiences and learns, the more chances he will have to understand the world, find his interests, and recognize opportunities.
Let your child make decisions. Think through decisions out loud with your child and give her a chance to contribute thoughts. Ask her, â€œWould this be a good idea in the long run?â€ â€œHow would this make others feel?â€ â€œWould this be helpful?â€
Tell a story. Many times we learn from our own mistakes â€“ but it is much more pleasant to learn from the mistakes of others! Tell your children stories of your own decisions, mistakes, and adventures so that they can take from the wisdom you have acquired during your own youth.
Talk about what you see on television or other screens. While watching TV may not always be the best family activity, it is part of our lives and can even be an opportunity for learning. If you and your child see something disturbing on television, such as violence, illegal activity, or poor moral behavior, talk to your child about what you saw and how it made them feel.
Set a good example. Children learn less from what their parents say than what they do. If you yourself are a responsible and caring citizen, your children will observe what you do and strive to emulate your actions.